In the Spotlight with Tanya Geisler, featuring Tara Gentile
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In the Spotlight with Tanya Geisler is a weekly live show that shines a light on some of the biggest mindset challenges facing leaders and entrepreneurs today in their lives and in their work.

This week's guest is Tara Gentile and we're talking Showing UP in Community.  Tara Gentile is the founder of CoCommercial, a digital small business community for entrepreneurs serious about making money, impacting their communities, and transforming the lives of those they love. She’s also the host of Profit. Power. Pursuit., a podcast that takes you behind the scenes of successful small businesses.She's the author of several books, a sought-after speaker, and a frequent CreativeLive instructor.

WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT:

  • What is showing up?

  • The anxiety that comes with showing up

  • The intersection of the Impostor Complex and Showing Up

  • The root of the fear of showing up

  • The link between showing up and resiliency

  • Showing up as an introvert

  • The difference in showing up for yourself and showing up for others

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TARA SAID//

  • The answer to fInding success, influence, and power is showing up.

  • The choice we make to weigh in and to become visible, is one of the key factors to show up as an insider

  • There is no club. There is no in crowd. There are just people that are willing to show up and be visible.

  • Becoming visible feels very dangerous, but there’s not a lot of truth in that in today’s community and today’s economy.

  • This economy, this market, this community isn’t a zero sum game

  • The more you stay in the middle of the pack, the more you cement yourself in that position.

  • When you rise up out of the pack, you are in a new pack of leaders. Those leaders can take you so much further than the lurkers and observers.

  • People wait until they feel comfortable, but comfort never comes.

  • People that show up work the resiliency muscle. I’ve never seen anyone be worse for wear for showing up.

  • Showing up is a way to get support.

  • The more you show up, the more you do it, the more comfortable you get, the more resilient you get, the less it wears you down, and the more results you get from it

  • Showing up for yourself is valuable for other people.

TANYA SAID//

  • There’s a profound fear that you’ll be discovered or found out, that you don’t have the answers.

  • If you get too far ahead of the pack your back is exposed, if you get too far behind you get eaten.

  • We know for us to be successful in the work, we are required to to show up to the work.

  • The party is on the other side of the resistance.

  • I’m nervous to be doing this and excited because it matters.

  • We have to calibrate ourselves. Sometimes showing up is presence, sometimes it’s putting it all on the line, and sometimes it’s opting out.

  • It’s never about changing the message it’s about finding the right frequency

  • It’s easier for us to show up for others than to show up for ourselves.

  • We often raise our hand when it will be in service of somebody else.

LINKS + THINGS MENTIONED:

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Each week Tanya and a guest star (an expert in their zone of genius) take on a topic that is UP in their work, or in the work of their clients. (Can’t step into your starring role when perfectionism, procrastination, boundaries, comparison, people pleasing, diminishment, and overwhelm are in the way, right?)

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Show Up

We spend a whole lot of time worrying, wondering, fretting if they’ll show up or not.

The real question, of course, is will we?

That really is the real question. Will we leave ourselves? Or will we show up? For each other, for ourselves.

Of the many themes that recur in my work, "showing up," well, shows up. In every coaching call, speaking gig, interview it show sup — glaringly loud and proud.

Because in truth? 

There are no shortcuts to showing up.

This is a theme I've written about in at least one-fifth of the blog posts from the past ten years.

Because, and this bears repeating: There are no shortcuts to showing up.

Yep. Over the past ten years, I've beseeched you, dear reader, and myself to:

Show up with tenacity and beginners mind.

Show up. Tell the truth. Be fierce.

Show up when there’s no guarantee that anyone else will.

Show up and be your truest.

Show up because you are required to. 

Show up because that’s how you learn.

Show up even when it’s hard. 

Show up because we need you.

Show up because your tenacity is currency.

Show up even in the worry.

Show up to put yourself on the fast track of your own making.

Show up and expect a breakthrough.

Show up even when you are hearing crickets.

Show up and do the work you are in the world to do.

Show up in spite of fear.

Show up and take responsibility.

Show up because the backache of hard work feels gooood.

Show up and then run away to the beach.

Show up because YOUR PEOPLE will get it.

Show up and know you are not alone.

Show up and invite your friends to the party!

Show up and take stock.

Show up even if you don’t fit in.

Show up in the ordinary times.

Show up because the Impostor Complex likes to keep us isolated.

Show up no matter what demons you’ve wrestled.

Show up fully.

Show up because you are JUUUUUUST this side of something wonderful.

Show up. Wake up. Speak Up.

Show up and let your people help you succeed.

Show up and you can bet that the Impostor Complex will too.

Show up and don’t waste time on anything that doesn’t feel good or right for you.

Show up and create MAGIC.

Show up as an act of self love.

Show up intentionally.

Show up, because that’s what full-hearted people do.

Show up and raise your rates.

Show up and say the things that need to be said.

Show up and keep learning how to be curious.

Show up even if you don’t have it figured out.

Show up and thrive.

Show up and set a goal.

Show up and find your thing.

Show up and tell the truth.

Show up in the uncomfortable spots and stay to see what opens up.

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Tara Gentile, Founder of CoCommercial and one of my favourite people on this planet AND most trusted business advisers, has THIS to say about showing UP:

"People who show up--regardless of level of achievement, cool kid status, or jargon knowledge--earn the rewards.

They show up with questions, concerns, victories, ideas, experiences, and contributions.

They show up with confidence, with vulnerability, with fear, and with joy.

You don’t go from being an outsider to an insider to a leader by virtue of learning a set of skills or being tapped on the shoulder by a gatekeeper.

You go from outsider to insider to leader by showing up as you want to be seen:

  • If you want to be an insider, show up & ask questions about the inside scoop.

  • If you want to be a contributor, show up & contribute your story and experience.

  • If you want to be an influencer, show up & share your opinions.

  • If you want to be a community leader, show up & organize the community by connecting people, ideas, and events.

  • If you want to be a powerhouse, show up as the go-to resource, stand strong in your knowledge, be open to new ideas, and use your station to help others.

This applies in communities like ours, in communities like yours, and in the market you sell in.

The way you show up dictates how people see you, your company, and your ability to give them what they need.

Don’t wait for people to call on you, don’t wait until you have it all figured out, don’t wait until you’re cool enough."

Yep.

Show up. Because there are no shortcuts.

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In the Spotlight with Tanya Geisler, featuring Molly Mahar
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In the Spotlight with Tanya Geisler is a weekly live show that shines a light on some of the biggest mindset challenges facing leaders and entrepreneurs today in their lives and in their work.

This week's guest is Molly Mahar. She is an entrepreneur, mama and adventurer obsessed with the intersection of joy, authenticity and community. As the founder of Stratejoy.com, she and her team provide thousands of women useful and inspiring strategies to practice joy through The Joy Equation Course, Stratejoy Summer Camp, and the high-level Elevate Mastermind. Molly’s superpowers? Telling the truth kindly, drinking copious amounts of bubbly and gathering awesome women together. You can access her library of free resources or connect with her (and her adorable tiny humans) via Instagram.

WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT:

  • What is Joy?

  • Happiness vs Joy

  • Defining the underpinning values of Joy for you

  • How to get to joy when you feel very far away from it.

  • Finding the shorthand to get to Joy

  • Why do we struggle with aiming for joy?

  • How to feel joy when things are tough.

  • Using your guiding words for joy to make things more sustainable

  • Staying present and being able to enjoy the things happening around you

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MOLLY SAID//

  • Joy is the lead. It makes everything better, juicier, deeper, more aligned with who I am.

  • If you look at our schedules, our grind, and what people are celebrated for, being happy isn’t something we celebrate in others.

  • How we interact with the world through our lens of JOY is totally in our control.

  • When I experience joy I am experiencing authenticity, gratitude, and presence.

  • Happiness is a reaction to an external event, joy is the lasting part.

  • Joy is a tool and happiness is a reward.

  • Joy doesn’t hold value in our patriarchal society like success does.

  • Things feel sustainable when birthed in my brand of joy.

TANYA SAID//

  • When I experience joy I am experiencing connection, gratitude, and generosity.

  • Connection is at the base of all of our desires and fears.

  • It doesn’t feel safe to celebrate or be in joy, what if I’m standing here alone and no one else shows up. It feels like we might trigger others with our joy.

  • When you’re clear on how you can create joy, happiness has an easier time finding you.

  • If we aren’t able to stand in our truth when we know what is true, how can we change a damn thing?

LINKS + THINGS MENTIONED:

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Each week Tanya and a guest star (an expert in their zone of genius) take on a topic that is UP in their work, or in the work of their clients. (Can’t step into your starring role when perfectionism, procrastination, boundaries, comparison, people pleasing, diminishment, and overwhelm are in the way, right?)

Listen to In the Spotlight with Tanya Geisler on iTunes or where you listen to your favorite podcasts!

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In the Spotlight with Tanya Geisler, featuring Randi Buckley
in the spotlight with randi buckley on boundaries

In the Spotlight with Tanya Geisler is a weekly live show that shines a light on some of the biggest mindset challenges facing leaders and entrepreneurs today in their lives and in their work.

This week's guest is Randi Buckley. Randi's clients are women who sense that their personal identity is in flux in unsettled situations and big life decisions. Her work points toward exploring one's own divinity, in support of forging a personal identity that merges head, heart, and intuition. She offers a support suite of self-study solutions, as well as personal coaching in an intimate one-on-one setting, including Maybe Baby and Healthy Boundaries for Kind People.

WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT:

  • The intersection between boundaries and the Impostor Complex
  • What poorly modeled boundaries look like
  • How to convey our boundaries to others
  • The 5 underlying causes of leaky boundaries
  • Energetic practices to seal up boundaries
in the spotlight with randi buckley on boundaries

RANDI SAID//

  • People haven’t seen healthy boundaries modeled, so they don’t know what they look like.
  • People are hesitant to cultivate or nurture boundaries because they feel like it’s a life long commitment.
  • Boundaries need to bend and flex to support you.
  • Boundaries are like a spine, it gives us form but also allows for movement.
  • Boundaries are there to honor what you value and what is important to you.
  • People are frustrated that their boundaries are being crossed, but they aren’t honoring their boundaries themselves
  • Healthy boundaries are an instruction book for people to get you at your best.
  • Our values are the Northern Star for seeing where our boundaries lie and how to work with them.

TANYA SAID//

  • The universe has a funny little way: the moment we decide we know a lot about something, we must be challenged with it on the daily.
  • When we’re feeling like an Impostor we do whatever we can to reestablish connection to the group and that often means we allow our boundaries to leak.
  • The places I’ve been challenged with boundaries are my greatest strengths.
  • Boundaries are like a dog park. There can be so much joy within that space, but things can also go batshit crazy. But the boundaries are required.
  • We have the BEST neighbors on both sides, but we also have FANTASTIC fences.
  • Boundaries are an internal job first, before you can start expressing them.

LINKS + THINGS MENTIONED:

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Each week Tanya and a guest star (an expert in their zone of genius) take on a topic that is UP in their work, or in the work of their clients. (Can’t step into your starring role when perfectionism, procrastination, boundaries, comparison, people pleasing, diminishment, and overwhelm are in the way, right?)

We’ll take your questions and bring our best answers. It’s part coaching, part exploration, part Q+A, all delicious.

It is hosted on Crowdcast and simulcast to Facebook Live.

Listen to In the Spotlight with Tanya Geisler on iTunes or where you listen to your favorite podcasts!

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Hard launches are...hard.

“It’s like someone streaked across the crowded field while a touchdown was in play.”

This is what my trusted advisor Theresa Reed saw in my cards when I asked her what in the hell happened after a coaching program launch flopped two years ago.

“Picture this,” she said. “The stadium is packed, the teams are at their best, the beer is ice cold and everyone’s super stoked. A touchdown’s about to happen. And then... out of the blue, some guy comes tearing out into the field with something written on his chest and all eyes are on him. Not the spectacular feat of athletic agility.”

I’m sharing this story with you today, my entrepreneurial sisters and brothers, because

I see you trying.
I see the struggles.
I see the shoulds and the musts and the have-tos that string you along and then trip you flat out.

I’ve been tripped up by those tangled stories plenty myself.

So may my story serve you well. It’s a tender one to share.

Like that perfect day on the metaphorical football field, I know the desire to execute the “perfect” launch.

I was clear about what I was doing and most importantly WHY I was offering my beloved Step into Your Starring Role program and the way I was going to be offering it. And at the price point I was offering it. There was not a whiff of dissonance.

I was working with a launch coach to make sure all bases were covered.

The plan was sound.
The email sequence sang a song that was true and told the enrolling story.
I produced a series of super useful, helpful, and engaging videos.
We shared consistently across multiple platforms.
We added in some early-bird bells and whistles, but not too many. Just the right amount of enticement.
My generous and big-hearted colleagues shared my offer with delight.
My former clients who had benefited from the work ALSO sang the work’s praises, because it was so meaningful to them.
I even timed it so that the stars were aligned. Literally. Yep. No Mercury retrograde was gonna get up in my grill.

It was beautiful. And I couldn’t wait to welcome in the twenty-five gorgeous souls who I could see entering into the work, as clear as day. (Twenty-five to start. With an eye on the next launch. And the next...)

For once, I had “done everything right.” (Can you hear at LEAST two inner critics going to town? Nice noticing. “For once” and “everything right." Two not-so-lovely fairy tales.)

And so, with having every “i” dotted and “t” crossed and every box checked on the launch plan, I headed for a March Break junket with my family and friends to a Caribbean resort with spotty wifi. This was the most surefire way I could imagine to NOT obsess over the launch details already well-handled. My launch coach and VA were handling potential tech snafus and I was checking email once a day only should any questions come in from people wanting to register, but needing to hear something specific from me.

I came back to eight spots sold. That was it. EIGHT.

Now please, please, PLEASE don’t get me wrong. The eight that stepped into the work were deeply cherished and appreciated.

But, if I were to tell you the number of dollars and hours and amount of worry about if they’d show up and the counsel I sought and the planning meetings I held and and and...well, you’d understand. This wasn’t just five months of effort. It was seven years in the making.

My very best content. At a really excellent price. With my heart and soul poured in.

Eight.

I was lost.

I rallied the team for a post-mortem. But before we could shake ourselves off enough to gather, I reached out to Theresa.

“It’s like someone streaked across the crowded field while a touchdown was in play.”

Yes. It was exactly like that.

When we finally could bring ourselves to look at the numbers, we saw a fascinating thing. We had hundreds of people click through to the sales page, then leave the shopping cart.

This told us that people thought the entire program was $300 (even though we were clear that $300 was the deposit and that the program price was $900).

If I’m being honest, that was a bit of a table flip moment for me. People wanted 12 weeks of content, videos, access, community engagement and management, group coaching calls, AND private coaching calls for $300?

Umm, no.

What I ALSO came back to was about 15 emails from mavens I respected saying that they wanted to do this work, MY work, but NOT with anyone else. Private with me.

We realized that the design of the group coaching offering was far too middle-of-the-road.

I needed an "accessible" option and more intimate offerings.

I ended up working individually with those eight (not in group) and it was magnificent. They ARE magnificent.

The Starring Role Academy evolved from there. And it is everything I've ever wanted. Truly. This nine-month program and the brilliant lights I get to convene with every day in the Green Room fill my heart beyond anything I could have imagined. Dreamt of.

For real.

That failed launch was the best thing that ever happened in my business. Evolution is like that.

Even though I’ll never know exactly what streaked across the field that day.

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