It's not your fault. That’s what jealousy does. It blinds you. Or, more accurately, it only allows you a partial view of someone’s fortune, life, experience and obscures the rest. And because we humans just can't cope with uncertainty, we fill in the blanks with our imaginations.
A little something like this:
If someone you’re eyeing is enjoying the success you desire, then they must also be enjoying the intimacy you crave. If they have the friendships you dream of, they must also have the financial stability you yearn for. This AND that.
Jealousy deals in absolutes, with little room for nuance or space for discernment. AND? With little allowance for the capital “t” Truth.
We see what we choose to see and are blind to the rest.
Maybe you know that the French word for jealousy is “jalousie”. But did you also know that a “jalousie” is also a window shutter with angled horizontal slats? Also know as a...(wait for it)...“blind”?
Funny thing about jalousies…they are designed to allow you to see outside without being seen yourself.
(You see where we're going here, right?)
Yeah…jealousy and blind go hand in hand.
But, of course, jealousy is also an on-point teacher. A snarling, frothing, lusting, hot-breathed swamp dog of a teacher, mind you, but an on-point teacher just the same. Within what you choose to see (and what you've made up that you see) lie your desires: success, intimacy, relationships, and financial stability.
Knowing what you want, of course, IS the first step in making what you want to happen, HAPPEN.
And here's what I want for you:
I want you to experience the fullness of the person you feel jealousy towards. And to experience the fullness of yourself. Just add curiosity.
I want for you to see how relative this all is.
I want you to bring some compassion into the fold. For you. For them. For the next time you feel jealous (and you will).
I want you to see, REALLY see, that the magnificence that you've projected onto them is but a prism caught in the light of your own magnificent potential.
I want you to get out from behind the blinds of jealousy and into that light.
Because the light, the light...oh it's so very much warmer in the light.