It is an unmitigated wonder that my daughter still tells me anything.
Because as much as I do my level best to simply listen, to simply be, to offer her my presence and my unconditional love, I fall short. Often. And instead, I counsel. I point out the opportunities, the possibilities, the other ways, the other paths. It has simply got to be annoying as all hell for the poor child.
But yet, there it is:
“What are you learning?”
Can’t stop. Won’t stop. Because it’s a good question. Maybe the BEST question.
Here’s what we know. Comparison is a teacher. A flashing red beacon that clearly and unapologetically shows us what we WANT as embodied by those that we compare up to and clearly shows us what we DON’T WANT as embodied by those we compare down to. (Lauren and I tackle this more fully and completely in our Beyond Compare self-study program.)
I speak and write often and at great length about how the Impostor Complex is a reliable teacher about what matters to us.
But guess what else is a teacher?
And so worth repeating: joy.
Alllllllllllllll of it.
The real question is:
What are you learning?
And then. OH and THEN:
What are you going to do about it?
A couple of ideas.
Easier said than done? Could be.
But the alternative is really not acceptable, is it?
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