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Beyond Compare: It's ready for you.

If you allow it to, Beyond Compare will help you to see where comparison: may be stopping you from creating what you want; may be preventing you from activating your calling; may be making you feel (and play) small for fear of projections; may be keeping you from expressing yourself fully; and, may be allowing you to disown your power (and hand it over to others).

Launching, Telejams, and a “Just Because” Gift…my favourite kind

Continuity alert. This may well be THE most disjointed post I’ve written yet. That I didn’t fret for hours trying to string it together into a sweet and melodic narrative is equal parts testament to how smart I know you to be AND sheer exhaustion.


I’m exhausted because I launched my Step into Your Starring Role program to my email list over the weekend and am opening registration up to the public today. Right now. In this moment.

And frankly, launching anything is fearsome business.

Will they show up?

Did I cross all the “t’s” and dot the ”i’s”?

Am I doing the right things?

Have I covered all the bases?

Am I ready?

Is everything perfect?

If any of those questions are answered with no, it feels like disaster will strike. So we very often don’t launch. Anything.

{Trust me. I hear that..."DISASTER". The bigness of that language doesn’t escape me. As wars rage and children are hungry and the sex trade endures and political prisoners are being tortured and cancer destroys families and atrocities are being committed in our own backyards…and. To say it’s” hard to reconcile” transcends the meaning of “putting it mildly”.}

And yet, here I am. Talking about launching.

This is part of the work I’m doing in the world. Not all of it. But much of it. Feeling fears, answering calls and going forward. Working with others to do the same. Ultimately, it’s the work all of us are doing.

So yeah. Today I’m launching Step into Your Starring Role, the 12-week coaching program that I’ve been crafting and finessing since New Year’s Day. It’s the very best of all the coaching I’ve done since I started in 2007. And it’s kind of like the practicum of my TEDx talk on Owning our Authority.

The Dress Rehearsal earlier this year was a smashing success. Here’s what some of the former participants had to say about the content, the community, the action and accountability and working with me.

Right? I know. Awesome women.

And I’ll be honest…when we opened pre-registration to my list over the weekend, I was met with immediate sign-ups. The most incredible women have started to show and I couldn't be happier. Very quickly most of my pre-launch jitters vanished.

They’re coming! They’re really coming!

I actually began to fret that all of the spots would be gone before I opened to the public. Definitely a champagne problem. And then….nothing. The sign-ups ground to a halt.

I spent the weekend being the coward who’s died a thousand deaths. Preoccupied with registration numbers. Fretting about said dotted i’s and crossed t’s. The typo(s) in the email to my list. Considering abandoning the plans I’ve been crafting for MONTHS.

What I’m awake to is how all or nothing the ego likes to have it be. There would be an avalanche of interest OR a desert of ambivalence.

The reality lands somewhere in the middle.

I’m excited. I’m nervous. I’m hopeful that the right people will find it. That it’s the right time for them. That it meets people where they are and gives them what they need to get to where they want to go.

I’m also hoping that it won’t consume my thoughts for the next month. I’ve allowed for a long registration period (until Sept 20th) so people have plenty of time to be sure it’s right for them. It’s not an insignificant ticket price, so I also get that people need to make sure it’s a financial fit. (And the reason we’re offering payment plans).

But ultimately, whether they show up, or don’t, I will continue to do the work I’m here to do in the world. Helping people to step into their starring role. So they can create the lives of their dreams. Right in the middle of all and nothing.


Over the next several weeks, I’ll be speaking with some of my very favourite women LIVE via Spreecast about how they’ve stepped into their starring roles. And boy howdy, have they ever.

Kate Swoboda! Tara Gentile! Kate Northrup

Stars, each of them, who have faced their fears and launched anyways. Who have faced critics and solderied on. Who continue to inspire, teach and lead even when….

Beacons of brilliance, each of them, who have boldly stepped into their own starring roles.

Bring your questions and your shades. We’re going to light it up.

Get these dates in your calendar::

The COURAGE Required to Decide to Strive with Kate SwobodaTuesday, August 27 (12pm PT / 3pm ET)

Translating “Starring Role” into the “Real World” with Tara GentileTuesday, Sept 3 (12pm PT / 3pm ET)

The Freedom That Comes with Stepping into Your Starring Role with Kate NorthrupWednesday, Sept 11 (12pm PT / 3pm ET)

We’ll be on video and you can type out any questions you have on the Spreecast platform. It’s nice ‘n’ easy to use from your tablet, computer or mobile phone.

It’s open to everyone, but if you register below you’ll get the link to all four Q+A recordings. And I think you’ll want them all.

Register for the Step into Your Starring Role Telejam Series



And finally...

A Gift:: Your Brand of Joy

In spite of the launch jitters (and, and, and…) I am feeling a truly living sense of joy. Because all the ingredients in my recipe for joy have long been alive and well. I know that these are gratitude, connection and generosity. You can read more about that here in my Joy Pages, if you like.

And I want you to find your OWN brand of joy. So please help yourself to one of the most popular exercises that we do in Step into Your Starring Role:: Your Brand of Joy. Click here and get your joy on. And then spread it around.

That’s also your work in the world.

How to deliver a boffo program – a metaphor, but not really

Want a lesson in humility? Write a sales page for a program that you’ve created and deeply love. Try to find the right words to charm, entrance and invite your people without grossing them (or yourself) out. And when you find yourself falling short, playing small, go find the words of the previous participants and feel your chest rise with the knowledge that you done good. Try to stay with that and not allow yourself to shrink back into the smallness of self-consciousness. And then share it with your world.

Done. Halle-flippin-lujah. You can see it here, with massive thanks to my beloved Tara Gentile for sherpa-ing me through the process (again).

Know what some previous Step Into Your Starring Role participants said about the last run of the program?

"I’ve done a lot of programs, but few have had the kind of lasting impact that yours had."

"I feel humbled by my 'starring role' because I now know what only I can do in the world."

"Tanya, you fully delivered (over-delivered actually) on everything you promised."

"I continue to use the knowledge that I gathered in this program long after the curtain closed."


So I’m excited about this program and entirely excited to launch it again (in September…get on the list for early notice and treats). But what I’m hoping to share here is more about how to run a program that elicits that kind of loving enthusiasm. 

And, as ever, this applies to life.

In life and in my program, I’ve learned to::

1) Show up fully. Whether you are running a program or simply want to be a decent human being on this good, sweet earth (and you do), show up. Let us know who you are and what we can count on you for.

2) Invite in the best. Surround yourself with quality people. You only have so much space…in your program and in your life. I felt like our calls were in my dining room, with crystal goblets and the plentiful, nourishing, hearty fare. And I WANTED that because I loved them all. Which brings me to…

3) Love the shit out of your people. Fully and completely.  You are being graced by their presence. THEY CHOSE YOU. Don’t lose your sense of awe in the wonder of THAT.

4) Be transparent. Your humanness is enrolling, captivating and magnetic.  But be mindful of lapsing into an emotional striptease. No one needs to see that.

5) Check in. See how people are receiving you, your words, your work. What’s the impact you’re having? How else can you be useful?

6) It’s about you, and not really. Sure, people are here because of you. But ultimately, they’re here because of themSELVES. Give them plenty of room and space to get what they desire out of the experience.

7) Get help. If you’re in over your head (and there will be days like this) lean into your friends and the genius people who know about stuff you don't. The people you love with a full heart who want you to succeed. It’s the only way for me.

8) Over-deliver in quality. Period.  (But not in quantity…see: “Keep it simple” below).

And, as ever, I learned about some blind spots. Places I need to dig into in my desire for and pursuit of excellence.

In life and in my program, I’m still learning to::

1) Stay late. This is actually a growth edge for me. I’ve heard legends told of Marie Forleo’s B-School Q+A calls. So the story goes, she would stay on the call until every last question was answered. Like, hours. Respect. I aspire to do better with this, as I was usually pretty quick to hop off at the end of the hour, thinking I was being respectful of others’ time. But I see now, people will stay if they want to stay. I ought to as well.  In my program and in my life.


2) Set expectations around availability. In my desire to over-deliver to those selfsame women I love the shit out of, I wasn’t excessively clear about when I wasn’t available to them. (But really, it was with myself that I wasn’t clear). And as such, I really wanted them to feel tended to and heard. At all times.  This meant that I was answering questions on my iPhone in bed and crafting responses and curating resources on Sundays. Which ultimately, isn’t sustainable. This program will get big. Very big. As will my life. Boundaries create spaciousness and cohesion. I’ll do a bit better next time.

3) Keep it simple. ARRRRGH. This one continues to dog me. I know what it is…it’s the handiwork of the Impostor Complex. In my programs, I keep throwing reams of content at ‘em to "prove" In my life, I talk fast and say a lot. When I write, I need to pare back about a third of the words to be more concise. I’m working, working, working on this.

To teach this lesson, I called in the big guns of teaching, my beloved Jen Louden.

One of the biggest take-aways every year from TeachNow students is good teaching is not about drowning students in information or sharing unique insights, but about offering the right ideas in small bites with plenty of spacious time for integration. We call it "appropriate dosing" in TeachNow. Think about your own best learning experiences. Was it all about a cascade of facts or a connection to your heart & mind - through story, reflection, small group discussion or your relationship with your teacher? 

We over-stuff our students because we don't trust ourselves. Teaching - which is what you are doing - happens in the mysterious messy juncture between student and teacher. Go there and trust the alchemy that will happen if there is room, if there is space.

In programs and in life…how you do one thing is how you do everything.


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