Thing Finding Thursday with Jasmine Lamb of All is Listening
I missed you last week, Dear Reader. iMovie and I were having a lovers' quarrel and it was trying to keep us apart. We're on speaking terms again and I am thrilled to share with you the interview I did with Jasmine Lamb.
As a coach, one of my skills is the capacity to listen to my clients at different levels. I listen for what they say, and to what they DON'T say. I listen to the pauses in speech, to the speed of the words and from whence said words come (diaphragm, throat, nose...it all indicates something different). So, yeah. I'm pretty skillish. And yet, YET, this woman has brought me to my knees. She is a LISTENER. A masterful listener who energetically reminded me to sloooowwww waayyyy, WAAAAYYY down.
Jasmine works one-on-one with people through her Healing Heart Sessions. She writes the blog All is Listening: Tools and Tales for Breaking Up, Waking Up, and Falling in Love. She is author of the forthcoming digital book, A Call to Listen: How to Start an Inner Revolution.
She has plenty of thoughts for you Thing-seekers and non-seekers. {Hint: it has everything to do with listening.}
So please, get your cup of tea, settle into your comfiest chair, and give this a good listen. Then turn everything off and take the time and make the space to listen to your own self.
Interview with Jasmine Lamb for Thing Finding Thursday
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Ooooh yes. Stop and listen. What is your life, right now, trying to tell you?
You can find Jasmine at her blog, All is Listening and on Twitter.
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Edited Transcript of Interview with Jasmine Lamb For Thing Finding Thursday
Jasmine: My thing is listening. And when I say listening what I am talking about is listening first to my experience in this moment and to what is arising for me right here. And extending out from there is listening to the environment, to the actual sounds, and then also having from this place of presence, listening to others.
Tanya: I suspect it’s always been with you but it hasn’t been articulated as such.
Jasmine: That’s right. It always has been with me and I’ve always almost known it, but haven’t quite and I’ve been confused about it. Because what was reflected back to me when I was younger, both as a child and a teenager and then in my career in my twenties, was my skill in relating to people and in listening to people and my skill in taking care of people. And I have really powerful skills in this area and I got enormous amounts of positive feedback from it. And at that stage in my life I was confused into thinking that the thing that I got lots of positive feedback about and the place where I got all the compliments and the place where people gave me attention, that that was my thing;
Jasmine: I was a fixer and a problem solver and a hand holder and a “let’s navigate this divorce successfully” person.
And that’s all a part of me. It still is; I have those skills. I want to use those skills. But, it wasn’t entirely feeding my soul.
Tanya: So there was a point at which you went from this listener in this capacity to another kind of listener. The listener that is very informed by your center – so what was that shift?
Jasmine: It was a culmination of catastrophes. I woke up one day five years ago, ready to go to work. I felt a pain in my side and it brought me to the ground. And as I descended, my back seized up. And I just couldn’t move.
And what first was my back being seized up transitioned to something where the bottom fell out of all my senses. I couldn’t tolerate sound; I couldn’t tolerate fast movement or even slow movement.
Jasmine: What I could be with was the very quietest, most still part of the center of me. That was where I could be. And I had touched that place in my life, but I had never really rested there. It gave me this incredible opportunity to rest within myself and to listen there. And really to listen in the moment there . When we are really listening, we are open to what we don’t know.
Tanya: I’m sensitive to that person who’s listening and saying, “Okay, but I haven’t known what my thing is for my whole life and now I’m open to being open to it and I want to find my damned thing.” I feel that there’s that sense of urgency, so I think that you have a lot to offer in this realm of confusion and bless you and I hope that comes across with the respect that I mean for it to. But I know that you have a belief that confusion, that feeling lost is actually a really powerful place so will you say more about that?
Jasmine: When we are lost it doesn’t feel powerful; it feels often miserable. Particularly when we are trying to get out of feeling lost. When I have been able to accept my lost-ness, and often it comes because I just am so fed up and so exhausted and so at my wit’s end that I just say, “Okay, I am lost. I don’t know what I need. I don’t know what is next and I don’t know what my thing is.” And then, I can feel it right now, I just took this big breath. My body, my being, sighs a sigh of relief that is like, “Great. You are accepting where you actually are.”
And from that place, knowing really does come.
So if I was working with a client around this, you would actually slow way down and I would give them this opportunity to feel the sensations of felt sense. Their physical sensations that are coming up in this wanting and desire and lost-ness. And let those unfold and let those unwind.
Tanya: I love this – on your site. Breaking up, waking up, falling in love and I was wondering if you could play with me and knit that into the context of finding your thing or stitch it in for me.
Jasmine: But for those people who are seeking their thing, they’re on a journey and what I think is exciting is that your life is going to take you there if you will listen to it. And if you’re willing to go for the ride, which might mean some breaking up happening and it doesn’t happen consecutively; it all gets mixed up. You’re going to wake up to what is true for you and it might not be what you expected and it might be scary.
Tanya: What is it that you want for people who are watching this right now who may be looking for their thing or trying to claim their thing or in process or maybe they think they found it but they’re feeling, “Is this it?” What do you want for them?
Jasmine: I want them to open to the possibility that their thing is inside of them. And that they can move towards it by trusting themselves and slowing down to include more parts of themselves in the conversation.
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