In the Spotlight with Tanya Geisler is a weekly live show that shines a light on some of the biggest mindset challenges facing leaders and entrepreneurs today in their lives and in their work.
This week's guest is Randi Buckley. Randi's clients are women who sense that their personal identity is in flux in unsettled situations and big life decisions. Her work points toward exploring one's own divinity, in support of forging a personal identity that merges head, heart, and intuition. She offers a support suite of self-study solutions, as well as personal coaching in an intimate one-on-one setting, including Maybe Baby and Healthy Boundaries for Kind People.
WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT:
- The intersection between boundaries and the Impostor Complex
- What poorly modeled boundaries look like
- How to convey our boundaries to others
- The 5 underlying causes of leaky boundaries
- Energetic practices to seal up boundaries
- People haven’t seen healthy boundaries modeled, so they don’t know what they look like.
- People are hesitant to cultivate or nurture boundaries because they feel like it’s a life long commitment.
- Boundaries need to bend and flex to support you.
- Boundaries are like a spine, it gives us form but also allows for movement.
- Boundaries are there to honor what you value and what is important to you.
- People are frustrated that their boundaries are being crossed, but they aren’t honoring their boundaries themselves
- Healthy boundaries are an instruction book for people to get you at your best.
- Our values are the Northern Star for seeing where our boundaries lie and how to work with them.
- The universe has a funny little way: the moment we decide we know a lot about something, we must be challenged with it on the daily.
- When we’re feeling like an Impostor we do whatever we can to reestablish connection to the group and that often means we allow our boundaries to leak.
- The places I’ve been challenged with boundaries are my greatest strengths.
- Boundaries are like a dog park. There can be so much joy within that space, but things can also go batshit crazy. But the boundaries are required.
- We have the BEST neighbors on both sides, but we also have FANTASTIC fences.
- Boundaries are an internal job first, before you can start expressing them.
LINKS + THINGS MENTIONED:
- Danielle LaPorte
- Boundary Bolstering Webinar
- Untying the Binds of the Impostor Complex Webinar Series
- “Good fences make good neighbors.” ― Robert Frost
- “Be careful about reading health books. Some fine day you'll die of a misprint.” ― Markus Herz
- “You can’t expect gallon sized love from quart sized people.” ― TD Jakes
- “I hate the term ‘role model’...but I do like the term “possibility model.’” ― Laverne Cox
- Amy Cuddy’s TEDtalk
Each week Tanya and a guest star (an expert in their zone of genius) take on a topic that is UP in their work, or in the work of their clients. (Can’t step into your starring role when perfectionism, procrastination, boundaries, comparison, people pleasing, diminishment, and overwhelm are in the way, right?)
We’ll take your questions and bring our best answers. It’s part coaching, part exploration, part Q+A, all delicious.