You’re the good girl who was
destined to become the “perfect woman”.
Always have been.
To avoid feeling like a fraud, the Impostor Complex has us hide out in certain behaviors: procrastination, leaky boundaries, comparison, people-pleasing, diminishment, or in your case, PERFECTIONISM.
Boundaries are a beautiful thing. But when we start to allow them to become leaky, we tend to do things out of obligation (which can breed resentment), we tend to overshare information about ourselves, and we tend to give greater weight to others’ opinions over our own. In short, it’s hard to tell where we end and someone else begins.I have so much more to share with you, so if you’d like to learn more, pop your email in here. I’ll share why you’ve done this (psst...it’s not all bad!), how it relates to the Impostor Complex and has been in the way of your Unshakeable Confidence and above all, what you can do to move past this so you can shine even brighter. We need you.
And it’s the reason your best friend wants your mantra to be: "I can't get it wrong".
Now...don’t get ME wrong. Your perfectionist tendencies have and continue to serve you well. They come from an excellent place.
- You value diligence and hard work.
- Refinement is important to you.
- Your values of excellence and mastery are STRONG.
How can any of this be a problem?
Well...you know it, don’t you?
The cost of perfectionism is great. It erodes time, your energy and above all, your confidence.
You often feel like if “it’s not perfect, it’s pointless”. But “perfect” is subjective. Exhausting...and often? A complete and utter myth. And when you cannot attain perfection, you feel like you are the Impostor in the room. Which is a double bind. You see...you engage in perfectionism to AVOID feeling the sting of the Impostor Complex...and YET, in engaging in that behavior, you end up feeling exactly the way you didn’t want to feel.
Over the next couple of days, I’m going to be sharing some resources with you to help you to ease up on your perfectionist tendencies so that you can lean into Unshakeable Confidence. Perfectly imperfectly.