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Birthday Wishes
I am enjoying a wonderful birthday today. And why wouldn’t I? I was feted by my family over the weekend, and both my husband and I have booked ourselves off for the day. First order of business? Latte…then moksha yoga. Deliciously hot. Our instructor kicked off final savasana today with a famous quote from Theodore Roosevelt. It spoke to me (and not just because I was bathed in sweat) and I wanted to share it with you.
It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.
"Citizenship in a Republic," Speech at the Sorbonne, Paris, April 23, 1910
For my birthday, I ask that you be kind to yourself too…and know that it’s okay to come up short time and time again.
Off to feast on oysters for lunch now. Yup, it’s a good day to be me.
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You can’t go back…and that’s good
Know those people who are stuck in some place in time. Like, perhaps the nineties? Who really think that Melrose Place being on the air was the pinnacle of good times? That somehow they were part of that campy troupe of styling blondes saying drivel like “nothing like a cold chardonnay on a hot summer night” with zero trace of irony? Melrose Place is coming back…and I fear for those who think it will be the same. Because it won’t be. Not even close. The actors are different, the writers are different and here’s the kicker, like it or not, the viewer who’s been pining for its return is different. Our ten-year wedding anniversary is coming up on Friday. It has been a beautiful marriage with lots of laughter and love on the one hand and some pain AND growth on the other.
So it was with a LITTLE bit of a heavy heart that I decided to go back to the scene of the wedding reception. I was scouting a location for an event I was to be hosting.
I walked in the room with a slight bit of uncertainty...I didn't really know what to expect. Would I be greeted by the happy ghosts from 10 years ago…the jazz trio’s music wafting through the halls, the laughter and excitement that joyous occasion bring, along with the air of expectations for a perfect life?
In a way, I guess I was afraid to go back…because I don’t ever want to live in the past. And as I walked through the virtually unchanged space, I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror that I fixed my complicated ‘do in 10 years earlier. I am no longer that young bride filled with dreams of how happily-ever-afters work.
And that’s good.
What I saw in my reflection was a different woman…still confident in the inherent goodness of the world, a steadfast believer in the power of positivity, and filled with a different brand of dream, but slightly more pragmatic, slightly more wrinkled and a hell of a lot more empowered.
And that is even better.
Our wedding day was a beautiful day. As is today. As will tomorrow be.
Different, and very very beautiful.
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Start, continue, and stop
You are glorious, do you know that? I just thought we should get that right out in the open. You are beautiful, creative, resourceful and whole and there’s not a thing wrong with you. No truer words have ever been spoken. For real.
So, given that we know the above to be the truth, why do you figure that you aren't achieving the results in your life that you seek (and results here can mean bucks, acknowledgment, mojo, enlightenment, peace, flow, joy, a grammy, tranquility or whatever your guiding force may be)?
Upon completion of all of my Board of Your Life programs and at the end of a coaching relationship (when the birds fly from my loving nest to soar…sniff), I ask for feedback. Why? Quite simply, I like to hear what rocked my clients (so I can continue to do the same for others...AND because it sounds so nice). I also *want* to learn what wasn’t so impactful. And that part is hard…no matter how “non-attached” and zen-like I intend to be.
I was introduced some time ago to the simple method of gleaning feedback: "Start, continue and stop". What should I start doing? What should I continue doing? What should I (…inhale deeply…) stop doing?
Peter Drucker once said, "Half the leaders I have met do not need to learn what to do. They need to learn what to stop." Yup.
Starting’s easy when you have a good reason to get going. Continuing is dead simple if you’ve got momentum working for you. It’s the stopping that is terrifying. What happens when you stop doing something? The fear of having to start something new to replace the stopped something can be brutally scary. Few people like change...and fewer still like to change.
To get where you know you want to go, what do you need to start doing, to continue doing and to STOP doing? (And, here's the trick..you can do it all and still be your glorious you.)
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Coach Buffet
As long as I can remember, I’ve been experimenting with food. Some flops - I seem to recall an ill-fated melba toast in the toaster (yup, flames and all) and some winners for my grade-school palate (chocolate ice cream sprinkled with iced tea crystals; grapefruit stands with any topping you could think of; fresh fall apples with molasses). All of my experimenting was done with equally culino-curious friends. The joy was in the collaboration, the excitement of trying something new and the anticipation of the results.
And so, I am thrilled to be in the kitchen (so to speak) yet again with my dear friend and colleague, Lisa Chandler. She conceived of the idea for an innovative coaching event and asked me to help tweak it. With a dash of this and a pinch of that, Coach Buffet was created…in the most delicious way (and with a delightful logo, thanks to Stephen Caissie).
Coach Buffet is a fun, innovative event that was concocted to bring a dozen powerful life and business coaches together with participants for meaningful one-on-one coaching conversations in a social evening format.
Sampling different types of coaching styles = buffet…get it?
This event is perfect for professionals and business owners who feel stuck in some aspect of business, career or life in general and who are hungry for possibilities.
Our first ever will be in Montreal on October 15th and will be followed up in Toronto on November 17th.
For Montreal, our array of coaches is sumptuous (by mid September, you can read all their bios on the site) and our venue is exquisite. I can assure you that powerful coaching will take place and strong relationships will form. As we say at Coach Buffet:
We are serving possibility….Are you hungry??
Register now at www.coachbuffet.com. Spaces are limited!
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Zen and the art of Fimo
Last Friday, I was introduced to a practice of mindfulness and supreme focus by my friend Adam. While he IS a wise old soul, he is neither a yoga master nor a Buddhist monk. He is an 8 year old boy who likes Doritos, Ben-Ten and modeling clay figures of Spider Man and he suggested that I give Fimo a whirl. So I did. Let me preface this by saying I’ve made it a bit of a mission to find wee food items for my daughter’s dollhouse (custom made by my Dad to look like our house…wall colours and all). I pretend that I’m seeking out the cutest foods for my daughter, but when I’m being honest with myself, it’s a quest for me…something unrequited there, I’m sure! Last week, I spent a WHACK of money at the Ex on dainty teeny-tiny foodstuffs (and felt a little bit like a crazy old cat lady for the experience...miniature doilies, anyone?).
So when Adam implored me to take a jaunt with him to our nearest art supply store and shell out some bucks for Fimo, I was in...though just for him. I never thought I'd manage to create something worthy of adorning the dollhouse. Fourteen dollars later however, my mind boggled with the endless possibilities: ice cream cones, sushi, meatballs, cookies…oh my!!!!
We nimbly worked it with our fingers, talked about life, love and bullies. We listened to the rain fall and shared jokes. We counseled each other on our creations and championed each other’s good work.
Given that this delightful afternoon occurred during my working hours, and in honour of my value of hard work, I’ve decided to apply what I learned about the afternoon to my business...and my life. And what did I learn? A lot.
Be open to new endeavours...whatever it may be.
Want more play in your life? Listen to children…they know how it’s done.
Letting go of preconceived notions about how something should be done can give you lots of room for expansiveness. And a quieter mind. Very good for your innate creativity in all you do.
Paying attention to details can make the difference between something being unpalatable or sumptuous. A little more effort can be rewarding…even if it feels fussy and awkward.
The only person that expects me to be perfect is me. AND, given that I’m imperfect, what the hell do I know about perfection anyways!
There is certain deliciousness in variety. And FURTHER to this, stay tuned for an event that I’m co-hosting with my dear colleague Lisa Chandler. It’s all about sampling a delectable variety of coaching styles…in 15 minute increments. You’ll be AMAZED how a good coach can help you cut to the meat of an issue in less time than that.
I’ll not be doing this for a living any time soon, but was pretty pleased how my little smackerels turned out….fingerprint imprints and all.
So, I ask you to try something new, fearlessly and with no attachment to the outcome. You may surprise yourself…and even clear your mind while you’re at it. And if you don’t know what that could be, ask a kid. They’ll let you know how fun's done.
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Magic
Believe in magic or not, we all know what it's about. The awe-induced experience of witnessing something momentous...and wanting to be a better person because of it. No matter what it is. My magical top 7 (in no order whatsoever) 1. shooting stars - to see one means that you've a) been patiently keeping your gaze up and not at your feet or b) you've had dumb luck. 2. dumb luck - this happens...a lot. Sadly, it's the hope that this will befall us that can keep us small...think lotto dreams. Then again, think lotto dreams and replace "lotto" with "blue sky"...and now what's available? Now what is your subconscious working on? If it's real and authentic, you'll find a way to make it happen...clarity is the key. 3. love - can't see it, hear it, taste it, or touch it...but man, can you feel it when it's real and genuine. 4. new beginnings - there's always a chance to turn the bus around....especially if you have the right people sitting with you. 5. music - for me, there is nothing like music to lift me up if I need to be lifted, or brought to earth if I need the grounding. I love it all...except for rinky-dink noodly jazz...that just makes me mad. But make a recommendation and I may turn that around too...may be another new beginning. 6. coaching - working with people committed to making real, tangible and significant changes...for themselves and ultimately, the world around them...sheer inspiration and an honour to witness. 7. the smell of oleanders - poetry in a fragrance
Why only 7? I love the magic of having room for more. I intend to keep adding, so please send me some of your thoughts...magic is to be shared.
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