On running, celebrating, and the Ego
If you’ve been around these parts for any amount of time, you’ll know that ABOUT once a year, I decide to pick up running again.
I give it a couple of chances to woo me and if it doesn’t, I get back to the gym.
Similarly, if you’ve been around these parts for any amount of time, you’ll know that I’m more than a little obsessed with celebrating.
So this letter is about running AND celebrating.
I was trying to find my groove earlier this week.
I made a deal with myself that I would take a break once I got to the streetlights about ½ km (¼ mile) away. I was also thinking about the FB Live I had done earlier in the week with my FB Group about how the Imposter Complex wants us to doubt our capacity. (You can check that out by joining that group here.)
In answer to the question, “How do we trust more deeply in our capacity (if the Imposter Complex is so obsessed with having us doubt it)?” I say “by learning to celebrate.”
Celebration is an integration of the work done. It conditions us for more. And though I know it challenges the very best of us, it (mostly) feels bloody good.
So imagine my surprise when I was thinking about this and hit the goal of the streetlight and kept running.
Now, I hear that you’re celebrating me (hey thanks!) I hear you’re happy that I found a little more gas in my tank and kept going.
Here’s the thing:
We can’t just honour our word to ourselves in doing the HARD stuff. No… we need to honour our word in the sweet stuff too. When you say to yourself you’re going to do a thing, DO THE THING.
It’s how we learn to trust ourselves.
Like when I said I was going to reward myself for a BIG business milestone reached, by booking a trip with my family, I had to do it. Even as I wanted to tweak the goal when I got there… because all of a sudden, it didn’t feel BIG enough of a goal. Even though it was bigger than anything I could have imagined a year ago. ‘Cause THAT, my friends, is how the ego works. It wants to want more than it wants to get.
(Read that again…)
And so I took the break. And it felt good. And I realized I had even MORE in the tank than I thought. Best run yet. Feeling wooed and ready for more.
PS - Know what else I want to celebrate? The end of you slipping your amazing brilliance into the water. If you want help learning how to give that up, let’s talk.
I have known Christina Rasmussen for MANY many years. Truly a star. In every sense of the word. Like, stellar and otherworldly. Take me at my word. I was delighted and honoured to speak with her on her podcast, which, unsurprisingly given the host, is uniken any other that I’ve done before. I told stories I did NOT expect to tell. We laughed, we communed. It was deeply nourishing. May it be so for you as well.
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