You and the greatest living actress may have a LOT more in common than you think. It’s not just that you love doing Julia Child impressions. (Who doesn’t?) Nor that you decided Law School just wasn’t for you. Nor that you love performance (though very few people know that about you.) Nor that you used to be a waitress. And not even because you have a super strong value of mastery, excellence and impeccability.
You both share a co-pilot…and it’s called the Impostor Complex.
Take our Meryl, for instance.
She has been nominated for an Oscar EIGHTEEN TIMES (and won three…so far).
And yet, she’s said this::
“You think, ‘Why would anyone want to see me again in a movie? And I don’t know how to act anyway, so why am I doing this?’”
Like, that woman can read directions for cooking OATMEAL and have it sound sexy.
It’s like this.
We often talk about the shoulds. Let’s talk about the coulds.
You know you should feel capable. But there doesn’t seem to be a bridge. You know you COULD get from here to there. It’s just that… You know that you COULD create your own opportunities (especially when those around don’t seem to be a very good fit). It’s just that… You know you COULD create that new program. It’s just that… You know you COULD pitch national media. It’s just that… You know you COULD enact social change…create massive impact. In fact, you’re pretty sure that’s why you’re here. It’s just that… You know you COULD write the book. It’s just that…
And you fill in the blanks::
I’m not smart enough. I’m not popular enough. I’m not thin enough. I’m not ready yet. I’ve already tried. It’s too late. I’m not savvy enough. And maybe you look at the successes you’ve had. The ones your well-intending friends keep pointing out to you. But you know better. Those wins were flukes. You just got lucky.
Yuppers. It’s the Impostor Complex. And for high-functioning professionals, it simply couldn’t be more universal. And it’s standing between you and those opportunities, that program, the book, the media...what you are here to do.
It’s what I spoke about at TEDx Women. And it’s the reason I created the 12-week Step into Your Starring Role coaching program. So that you can move through it, past it, OVER it and get to where you are deeply yearning to go. For good. For all of our good.
Registration for Step into Your Starring Role opens soon, so get on the list and be the first to claim to your spot and cash in on a delightful bonus.
And on Sunday night, as you watch Meryl shine at the Oscars…raise your glass of prosecco (or bowl of popcorn) and give thanks that she found her own way past the Impostor Complex to continue to create her art.
Just like you can.